The Expired Listing Appointment
An expired seller has already sat through a listing presentation, hired the person who gave it, and watched the house not sell, which makes the second presentation a different meeting from the first. What the appointment is for, the four questions that run it, why the packet most agents bring makes things worse, the pricing conversation with a seller who has been burned by one, and the three ways the meeting ends.
Jon Smith
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An expired listing appointment is a meeting in which an agent and a seller work out together why a house did not sell, and then decide whether the agent’s answer is worth hiring. That is the whole definition. Everything that goes wrong at these meetings comes from treating it as something else: a presentation, a pitch, a second attempt at the same performance the seller already sat through. The format is borrowed from a first listing appointment, where it belongs, and it does not survive the transfer.
Remember what this seller has been through. Some months ago they met an agent, probably more than one. They chose. They signed a document, let strangers walk through their bedrooms, took the calls, dropped the price maybe, and then watched the listing run out with the house still theirs. Whatever else they are, they are a person who has already bought a listing presentation once and been disappointed by the result. A folder of testimonials from the next agent does not read to them as evidence. It reads as the same genre.
So the second presentation is not a presentation at all. It is a diagnosis, done in front of them, with their evidence, and the difference shows up in the first three minutes.
What you bring
Two pages and a pen. The first page is the history, which the history piece explains how to read: days on market, the price changes with their dates, the photo count, the status trail. Print it as it is, without commentary. The second page is the comparable sales, five or six, with the two you think matter marked. That is everything.
What stays in the car is the packet: the brochure, the testimonials, the marketing plan with the video tour and the social calendar, the stack of sixteen items the checklists tell you to carry. Bring it if it comforts you, and leave it closed. Every one of those pages answers a question about you, and the seller’s question is about their house. There will be a moment near the end where they ask how you would market it, and that is the moment for one clear page, offered rather than presented. Offering beats presenting here for the same reason the diagnosis beats the pitch: the seller has already been sold to once by someone who was confident.
The four questions
| The question | What you are listening for | What it rules out | What it changes |
|---|---|---|---|
| “What do you think happened?” | Their theory, in their words, and how firmly it is held | An agent-led diagnosis they will resist | Everything; this is the meeting’s spine |
| “What did the showings tell you?” | Volume, feedback, patterns, the second visit that never came | Exposure as the culprit, if the traffic was real | Whether the problem is price, condition or presentation |
| “What would you have done differently?” | The thing they already know and have not said aloud | Your having to say it first | Who owns the hard part of the plan |
| “What has to be true for you to be somewhere else by spring?” | Their actual deadline, and whether one exists | A sale that was never really necessary | Price, timeline, and whether you take the listing |
Ask them in that order, and leave silence after each. The expired script opens the first call with a version of the first question, so most sellers have already started forming an answer. At the kitchen table it goes deeper, because they have had time and because you are looking at them. The second question does most of the work, since showing traffic is a fact rather than an opinion and it settles the exposure argument on the spot. The third question is the one agents skip, and it is the one that decides whether the plan belongs to both of you.
The one discipline that matters here is not filling the pause. A seller who says “I don’t know, the market I guess” and then sits for four seconds will usually follow it with the real answer, which is often about price, sometimes about a bad month, occasionally about a spouse who was never on board.
The price conversation
Everything in the meeting bends toward this, and the expired seller has a specific sensitivity: they suspect that “price” is what agents say when they want an easy listing. Sometimes they are right. Standard of Practice 1-3 speaks to exactly this: an agent may not mislead a seller about market value in order to win the listing. That is the rule against buying a listing with a number you do not believe. The same rule read the other way is a caution against the opposite move, the reflexive lowball that makes the listing easy to sell and the seller poorer.
The way through is to stop asserting a number and start showing the two sales you marked.
Here are the two that decide it. This one is nearly identical to yours and it sold in nine days at this number. This one is the one buyers compared yours to, and it has the garage. If I put yours between them, here is the range. You have lived in the house and I have not, so tell me where in that range you think it sits, and why.
Then listen, and mean it. A seller who arrives at a number with you defends it in a way they will never defend a number you hand them. If their answer is above the range, the honest response is the one the agent who took the expired listing at their price did not give: what that price will cost in weeks, and what you would need from them at day twenty-one if the showings say the same thing again.
About the previous agent
Say nothing bad about them, and not merely as politeness. It is a rule and a tactic at once.
The Code of Ethics puts this in Article 15, which forbids statements about a fellow professional that are untrue or that mislead. Beyond the rule, the seller chose that agent, and every criticism of the choice lands on the chooser, who is sitting across from you deciding whether to choose again.
When the seller criticizes them, which happens often, the move is to take the fact and leave the blame: “So the photos went up in November and the house shows best in the morning. That is fixable.” You have kept the useful part and declined the invitation to pile on. The twice-expired piece has the longer version of this discipline for the seller who has been through it twice and has a speech ready.
The three endings
They sign. Then the conversation turns immediately to the first two weeks, and to what you will both do at day twenty-one if the showings repeat the pattern. Write that date down in front of them. An expired seller who has heard a plan with a checkpoint in it is far calmer three weeks later than one who heard optimism.
They need a week. Fine, and the appointment piece rule applies in reverse: do not fill the silence with more selling. Agree the date, ask what they will be thinking about, and send only the thing they asked for.
You decline. This is the ending nobody writes about and every experienced agent has used. A seller who will not move on a price the evidence does not support, or who wants a promise about timing that cannot be made honestly, is offering you a listing that will expire again with your name on it. Saying so, kindly, is a service to both of you.
I don’t think I’m the right person at that number, and I would rather tell you now than take the listing and spend six weeks trying to talk you down. If the market tells you something different in a month, I’d be glad to look again.
That seller re-enters the follow-up cadence as a dated call rather than a closed record, and a surprising number of them call back.
The meeting in one line
The expired hub treats an expired listing as a seller with a problem rather than a lead with a phone number. The appointment is where the problem gets named out loud by the person who owns it, with an agent in the room who brought the evidence and left the brochure in the car.
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